In talking with people about the Bible, inevitably this comment will come up in conversation.
Them: “Well I’m not so sure I could pray to someone who is so negative towards women…men having multiple wives…it’s so archaic and chauvinistic.”
Me: “I agree. Polygamy is perverted. However, it’s important to know God was never the author of it, even though he allowed men to make it so through free will.”
This topic has become more popular in recent years due to the reality show Sister Wives, showing a particular sect of Mormonism in Utah. I have only seen one episode, but it depicted the deep jealousy, and hurt feelings because their husband was taking a new wife on a longer honeymoon than they had gotten. If there were emotional constraints on that one issue, I can imagine the depths of hurt on a daily basis, and the numerous daily complaints. Who would want to live like that?
Personally, what is important to point out is that the very nature of God is love. He united a man and a woman in a tangible reflection of His great love for mankind. A woman’s tenderness and deep compassion are a balance to a man’s strength, and willingness to fix an issue. A man’s need for physical affection is tempered by a woman’s emotional fragility. Beauty and Braun. Logic, and Love. But in polygamy, those balances are upset by a third party. Or fourth…and so on. A man must try to sustain the emotional needs of many, while the woman must restrain deep jealousies. God never intended such stress on any marriage.
I’ll leave you with a quote from one of my favorite authors.
“Let’s look at where polygamy first crawled into history. Genesis 4:19 tells us: Lamech married two women, one named Adah and the other Zillah.
Lamech disobeyed God’s very specific directive in Genesis 2:24: ‘A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.’
Tough assignment becoming one flesh when three or more get involved.
We need to nail solidly into our lives two important precepts that come from these scriptures. First, prevalence does not equal acceptance. Just because polygamy became a common practice, God did not change the rules.
Polygamy did not become acceptable with God because it became common with man, any more than research polls cause Him to change His mind about any other sin. Our God is incredibly public opinion resistant. Second, a man cannot be one flesh with two women. Nor can a woman be one flesh with two men. According to God’s math, only two can become one.”
Excerpt from David, A Heart Like His written by Beth Moore